Posted by Tamar on November 17, 2005, at 3:55:02
In reply to no girlfriend so I turned to prostition, posted by MichaelJr on November 16, 2005, at 12:42:52
I’m not going to judge your behaviour. But can I ask you to think about a couple of things?
I also have a very strong opinion about prostitution; it’s a bit different from TexasChic’s. I’ve known women who worked in prostitution and none of them wanted to do it.
Almost all women in prostitution (especially those working in brothels) are doing it because they have no other way to survive (e.g. they have debts or they’re very poor or they can’t get other jobs that would pay enough to feed their kids).
Many women in brothels in South America and Asia (and other places) have been forced into prostitution or sold into it as children, often as soon as they reach puberty. Being forced or sold into prostitution usually means the girls have been violated and abused to make them co-operate.
Many women working in brothels will die before they reach their forties, often from sexually transmitted diseases. Some are murdered, either by clients or brothel owners. It’s a terrible life.
I hope you will consider the fact that many of the women you are having sex with are severely traumatised and basically don’t want to be doing it.
I think you would probably find sex to be a much more pleasant experience if you find a partner who is able to enjoy it. You say you have social problems and you’re shy… Therapy can help with that, and is considerably cheaper than flying around the world to visit prostitutes!
And I agree with TexasChic that if your meds are causing sexual difficulties you can try switching meds. You don’t need to give up on the idea of having a girlfriend or having great sex with a partner! I’m sure that you are *not* socially or sexually inadequate, and some therapy might help you realise your potential as a boyfriend.
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