Posted by allisonross on November 16, 2005, at 13:27:04
In reply to no girlfriend so I turned to prostition, posted by MichaelJr on November 16, 2005, at 12:42:52
> Guys
> Dear Michael: i won't judge you. The best advice I can think of is to get into counseling. It is hard work (probably the most difficult work you will ever do, but well worth the effort).
> I am living a crazy life right now. I have a lot of problems and some social problems so I haven't dated for a really long time. I also have no self confidence at all so I believe that no girl would ever like me!A therapist can help you figure out WHY you have no confidence.
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> So for a graduation present I took a trip to Rio De Janeiro Brazil. At the time I was naive but then I started reading on the net about that city and found out it is full of prostitutes! There are dozens of legal brothers there that are like spas in the USA and they are really nice! So I went there and had sex with about 10 prostitutes in 7 days (well kind of, I couldn't get it up beacause of my meds!).I hope you used protection?
So here I am in Brazil paying for all this sex and I can't get it up!
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> But I got home and these prosititues reallly filled a void for me. I was without attention from any women for about 4 years, so I was craving more of this.and you were paying for it, right?
That would be normal, but I am sure you would rather have a "real' relationship with someone who loves you?
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> Since then, I have been touring all the prosittion capitals in the western hempisphere. I have been to Tijuana, Costa Rica, and Buenos Aires..twice! I have been with about 25 prostitutes since February!I hope you are using protection.
I am also going back to Argentina on Saturday for another 7 days and guess why??!!
I hope you are using protection.
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> I am getting in serious debt with all of this. I was taking out student loans and had way more than I needed. I also ran up a 9 thousand dollar credit card bill in under a year! I think my parents will just pay itWhy?
when I come crawling to them about it but I seriously feel like such a fool spending all this money that I don't have.
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> I am 24 years old and it would be better if I just got a regular girlfriend but that seems like it will never happen for me. I am so shySHY? you are having sex with women you don't know (I am not being judgemental here, just wondering what your construction of the word---shy---is?)
and haven't had a girlfriend for 4 years!
you sound like you are afraid of a REAL relationship, because that entails opening yourself up; your emotions, etc., and you can be hurt; this is normal.
I can barely even talk to girls either.
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> The worst part is is that Im using drugs like Viagra and Cialis like crazy to get it up because otherwise it is too hard with my meds!Shouldn't you be checking with your doctor, to see if you should even be taking those drugs (Viagra, Cialis).
and I'm 24 not 64 here!
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> Anyway any thoughts on this?What are your thoughts?
Is this who you want to be?
If it could be a perfect world, who would you want to be, where would you be and what would you be doing?
Would you want a girlfriend?
If so, what are you doing, so that can happen?
I'm worried for you, because you could get a disease that would ruin your life, THEN it would have to be someone very understanding (girlfriend-wise) to want to be with you. This sounds very destructive for you.
Again, my bottom line is: therapy
I am not (again, want to make that clear), judging you, but what you are doing seems fun now.
At this age, you feel indestructible.
It could destroy you,emotionally AND physically.
your behavior is self- destructive, and I am sure you must know that; you need to find out (if you want to be healthy emotionally) what has caused you to feel this way, and how you can change.
Please don't judge my behavior as it is not really accepted in the USA.
Ally
poster:allisonross
thread:579342
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