Posted by Dinah on November 14, 2005, at 11:02:04 [reposted on November 16, 2005, at 21:54:17 | original URL]
In reply to Boundary setting dilemma--Help!, posted by gardenergirl on November 13, 2005, at 22:37:46
I'd go for the physical avoidance. Maybe stand slightly behind your husband when first meeting him and extend a hand.
A coworker I had dealt with this sort of thing wonderfully. She had a way of jumping and "eeking" with surprise at unwanted touch. Or manage to get her hair caught so that she stepped back, said "ouch" and look injured. Things like that that were more open than the avoidance I used (that didn't always work) but less obvious than making a scene.
I think you probably have to be a good actor though. I never could carry it off.
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