Posted by daisym on November 13, 2005, at 23:23:41 [reposted on November 16, 2005, at 21:54:17 | original URL]
In reply to Boundary setting dilemma--Help!, posted by gardenergirl on November 13, 2005, at 22:37:46
I'm the queen of "DON'T hug me" -- I stick my hand out quickly when people approach to offer a shake.
So -- if you don't have a dress with spikes -- there are a few maneuvers. I guess I don't see saying anything at this occasion, the last thing your sister would want is a confrontation.
Avoiding is always the best way -- keep sitting down when he approaches -- don't get up and give him the opportunity to hug you. If there is a receiving line and you see him coming, grab the person behind him if you can, while patting him on the shoulder.
You could also have a cold - "I'd hug you but I don't want to give you a germ - I feel a cold coming on."
and I love the jealous husband ploy. I've never thought of that one!
Good luck. And I agree -- ick!
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