Posted by Jen Star on November 7, 2005, at 20:08:15
hi everybody,
I'm hoping for some advice! :)My husband and I are friends with a guy I'll call "John" (**names may have been changed, etc,etc.)
There are 2 important things about John: 1) In general, he has some things in common with us which makes hanging out with him fun.
2)Since he is newly single, John has invited some new girls to join our "group" of friends that usually hang out, go to dinner together, and have casual parties -- and I HATE, HATE, HATE THESE GIRLS!!!
Most of us are in our 30's and 40's, and we're a casual, laid-back bunch of friends. These "girls" are in their 20's and they're giggly and screechy and like to drink a lot, and talk about who got drunk last week, and who hooked up last week, and things of that nature. They do NOT like to have discussions about anything else.
They ignore me and the other "regular" women in the group, although they flirt with our husbands & BF's. I have tried to talk to them, I've tried to get along, and I feel we have nothing in common. Trying to talk is like pulling nails. One of them made fun of me behind my back even -- made fun of my job, which she thought was dumb, apparently. This enraged me, but I let it go b/c she was completely drunk and I didn't want to make a scene. But I'm a highly educated person with an advanced degree, I've accomplished a lot in my life, and I'll be d**ned if I'm going to hang around with people who are not up to my standards of civility and regular conversation!
Lately, every time a group of us get together to do anything, John automatically invites this gaggle of brats to join us. And I am sick of it! I can't stand them, their facile idiotic conversations, their stupid flirty mannerisms, their drunken eye-rolls, and their childishness. Because of them, I've started avoiding the "gang" activities. My husband talks to John often, and reported that John is trying to figure out which of the girls he's going to sleep with. (They're all interested in John, apparently.)
But my husband, although he agrees they're annoying, still wants to go out with John & the crew. The other nite, he went out w/out me. I told him I couldn't stand seeing those girls again, and told him HE could go out with John and the rest. And he did, leaving me home alone! Which was OK, b/c I had stuff to do....but STILL.
I hate the girls. I hate the fact that John has invited them into my/our little world of friends. And I hate the fact that my husband does not seem to be as hateful of them as I am.
advice, anyone????
JenStar
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