Posted by Tamar on August 4, 2005, at 6:38:38
In reply to Somebody stop me...PLEASE!!, posted by kid47 on August 3, 2005, at 14:15:43
> lotsa great insight and info...Does crazy breed intelligence or does intelligence breed crazy (and I say that in the nicest sense.) I wish I had people like you all to hang out with in real life.
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> It was mentioned here the possibility that women *need* sex as much as men. I guess we could get into the whole thing about sex drive, testosterone, etc. and the primal motivation to mate, but I wonder if there isn't a more refined drive that has to do with gender defined ability to communicate.....I know this sounds sexist, but I have always felt that women are waaay better communicators than men. This obvious stereotype might have basis in fact. I think that's why I have been inclined to have more female friends than males. I just find them a heck of a lot more interesting. I believe that because men are possibly more limited in there available communication skills, that sex becomes important as a primary way to connect with someone they are drawn to. It is sometimes the most direct route for a man to express that he finds someone desirable and he feels emotionally attracted to them.Y…e…s… And there are reasons why we have stereotypes. But I think women as well as men like to connect sexually in order to express emotional closeness. Or maybe I’m abnormal…
> Women seem to be able to communicate this on so many different and more subliminal levels. Sex, for them, may be a culmination of expression that reflects these different levels. A females sex drive might actually be tempered by the fact that the emotional component of sex can be in part satisfied through other methods of communication......lord knows I'm just guessing here.
It doesn’t work that way for me. Goodness knows I enjoy an emotional connection as much as the next woman, but it’s not a substitute for sex.
> Maybe a poor analogy should involve food.
Ah, food as a metaphor for sex. It’s always apt.
> If all your life the only thing you ate were meat and potatoes (this of course is code for sex), whenever you were hungry you'd rustle up a T-bone and spuds ....but, If you were wired, for whatever reason, with the knowledge that there is other stuff to eat (no double entedre intended) you would be inclined to satisfy hunger maybe with some green beans and ice cream while on some occasions you might be in the mood for the meat and potatoes.(I should stop now...I don't think I even understand what I just wrote)
Can’t you sometimes have the T-bone with the green beans? (That’s how I like it… I’m just talking food here, though…)
> I am seeing my pdoc next week.....I will obviously be discussing some sort of modification to my meds :)
Awww! I like you as you are!
Tamar
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