Posted by alexandra_k on July 30, 2005, at 22:35:21
In reply to Sex and other stuff I know nothin about (boring), posted by kid47 on July 28, 2005, at 14:41:09
That wasn't a ramble at all, that was really interesting :-)
I think it is really very complicated... It is interesting to hear other peoples thoughts on it. I'm still trying to work out a lot of that myself. Oh yes, I understand sex as a sport. Not like hunting... But a recreational activity. I mean, it can be FUN. It can make you feel GOOD. It can give you some EXERCISE.
It can leave you feeling used and dirty.
And that... For me... Was the problem. So now I have to go with the meaningful relationship thing now and forgo the sport too.
sigh.
I wonder about this a lot...
Whether it is so very different for guys and girls. I'm not sure whether it is or not. But I do think that in general it seems to be.
How much of that is all mixed up in gender roles.
Environment. Double standards. How much females just need to be liberated from the shame and guilt and all that crap around being exclusive so the guy doesn't have to worry about whos children he is raising... ;-)
How much is innate or whatever. How much it just is different. And men and woman really do have different aims and needs and so on.Its confusing.
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