Posted by caraher on August 2, 2005, at 14:22:54
In reply to Re: Tamar and Alexandra » Tamar, posted by Mal on August 2, 2005, at 5:34:05
> ANd then there is the whole body image thing. I am a little insecure about my husband looking at the beautiful women who are willing to DO ALL THAT (for $$, of course), and then looking at me with my many physical flaws who ISN'T willing to do ALL that... By comparison I know how I must look.
If he's anything like me he's not comparing. I understand feeling insecure about physical flaws but when I'm with my wife I focus my attention on what I see and feel that I *like*. And I think that's a pretty general "strategy" for maximizing enjoyment! (For enjoying *anything* - the one who picks at every minor flaw is known as a "killjoy" for a good reason.)
Then there's the "doing ALL THAT" factor. Sure, for the right price (or because of coercion in any of the many forms it can take in the sex industry) she'll perform certain physical acts before a camera. But even at our most animalistic we men have emotions as well, and know there's a world of difference between a mercenary (or victim) performing an act because she sees it as advantageous and less "spectacular" ones performed out of love.
And even at the most base level, at most porn gives him sound and a two-dimensional image of that woman. You are there in 3-D and more, body and soul, scent and touch, reacting to him in so many ways... there's no competition! It's the difference between eating a home-cooked meal and flipping through a culinary arts magazine!
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