Posted by Tamar on August 1, 2005, at 19:48:05
In reply to Tamar and Alexandra, posted by Mal on August 1, 2005, at 7:46:05
> Oh, I do agree that private pics/movies of a couple (not viewed or shared with anyone else) are not porn. I didn't mean to give that impression, really. ANd if both parties are wholly comfortable with it, it is no business of mine or anyone else's! But I am just not comfortable with it myself, and felt a little guilty for refusing.
I think it's important to be able to say no to things we don't want. There are things my partner would like to do that I don't want to do. I'd like to be able to accommodate him, but I just can't. But yes, I do feel a little bit guilty that I can't give him that particular thing he wants. So I think I can understand where you're coming from.
> As for wanting a pic of my husband naked and aroused, not really. He is very handsome, with a great body, but I really don't feel the need to have his naked image on film (or digital). Really, visual images of the "business end" of things doesn't do a lot for me. I may regret it one day when we are both old and saggy, though! LOL
I suppose response to visual things can be a very individual matter. It's funny how things that work for one person leave another person cold.
> Thanks, and have a great day!
You too.
Tamar
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