Posted by Mal on August 2, 2005, at 5:34:05
In reply to Re: Tamar and Alexandra » Mal, posted by Tamar on August 1, 2005, at 19:48:05
I am glad to know you understand where I am coming from. This is stuff I just can't talk to my IRL friends about.
IT IS funny about what turns different people on... I very much like to be touched a certain way, looked at a certain way- as Olympia Dukakis (or was it Shirley Maclaine?) said in Steel Magnolias, "That melts my butter." But images, not so much. I do get a small physical "charge" out of images, but I don't feel good about it. I guess somewhere very deep in my psyche, I feel that explicit nudity/the sex act is very private, and I feel like a dirty voyeur for having even the reflex-type reaction to seeing it. Even when in photos it is obvious that the subject knows he/she is being photographed. Does that make any sense at all? I really want my sexual experiences to be all about ME, (OK, and him a little, too (jk)).
Another problem I have with porn is that I think it tells people that this is how sex is supposed to be, and if you aren't doing this/that/the other, you aren't doing it right, or having a good time. How would everyone's sex life be different if they only had their own real life experiences to draw from? Sure, everyone has their own fantasies, but as far as actual images, they only have personal experiences... Maybe our sex lives would be more boring. Or maybe they would be more natural and wholesome... Or maybe there would be very little difference.
ANd then there is the whole body image thing. I am a little insecure about my husband looking at the beautiful women who are willing to DO ALL THAT (for $$, of course), and then looking at me with my many physical flaws who ISN'T willing to do ALL that... By comparison I know how I must look.
Well that turned into a rant.
MAL
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