Posted by Susan47 on July 3, 2005, at 12:57:44
In reply to Re: living with/ loving someone whos suicidal, posted by fallsfall on July 3, 2005, at 9:39:44
Fallsfall,
What you said about portage making decisions his mother doesn't approve of, really resonated with me. Because I feel my own son is too good, you know? It's like he's being extra-good, not doing any drugs, hardly drinking, not running with any crowd except the most intelligent, ambitious ones he can find ... well, it's scary. Because I did everything my parents didn't approve of. I'm thinking my depression and my kid's guilt over it, over me being his sole provider of almost everything most of his life, well, it's stopping him from doing what he needs to do, which is really experiencing life. I don't know. He does other stuff, he dives and plays music and skis and goes to the movies and out with his friends for dinners and stuff, but he doesn't do any of the bad stuff, you know? I don't know. I hope he didn't stop himself because of me, because of any guilt or need to take care of me. Maybe I'm being silly? But I think your advice was right, it was good. Not good to take drugs or drink too much and get drunk or anything, but advice just that sometimes your decisions will fly in the face of what your parents want, and it's okay to risk their anger. You might get it, too, but they'll get over it. And in the meantime, you'll have been independent, yourself, learning life. Good advice, really.
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