Posted by daisym on July 2, 2005, at 20:27:24 [reposted on July 3, 2005, at 10:57:29 | original URL]
In reply to living with/ loving someone whos suicidal, posted by portage on July 2, 2005, at 18:18:45
Susan is right, you can't change someone else, you can only change yourself. It sounds like you really love your mom and worry about her. But it isn't your job to keep her safe, or take care of her, or to make social excuses for her. Believe me when I say that most people know exactly what is going on and probably wish they knew how to help YOU.
If you can, find a therapist for yourself. I would also encourage you to confide in another close-to-home adult, who can listen to your fears and not just try to shush you. Talking about how hard it is to live with a sick parent is important for kids.
And it is hard. Really hard. There is nothing wrong with admitting that it is effecting you. All I can do is encourage you to be somewhat understanding of your mom, and take good care of yourself.
Let us know how you are doing.
Daisy
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