Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 18:03:32
In reply to Talking erotically, sensually (might trigger some), posted by jazzed on June 26, 2005, at 9:16:46
If you can feel comfortable with it, and start watching x-rated movies that have a lot of talking in them (even the actors in these things sometimes go on forever and ever without speaking, and I find them really flat as well; sex is in the mind, IMO, as much as it is in body) so get some good ones, maybe have the guy at the store recommend a few, or find out which ones have a lot of talking. Watch them regularly with hubby until he's so used to hearing that stuff that it starts to come up in his mind; just expose him to it, that's all. Maybe you should start talking to him that way, loosen him up a bit.
Can you go into the x-rated part of your video store? I'm afraid to go into that section, I'm afraid I might blush my face off, but I can tell you I really really want to go there. Seriously. I want to have the chutzpah to do it myself. Without feeling dirty. Good for you, for knowing what turns you on, and fantasizing, that's necessary because it makes sex exciting, but I've only found a need to fantasize when I'm unhappy, unexcited, by who I'm with. Ideally I'd love to be in a relationship where I don't need to fantasize.
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