Posted by Tamar on June 26, 2005, at 15:35:42
In reply to Talking erotically, sensually (might trigger some), posted by jazzed on June 26, 2005, at 9:16:46
My husband claims he doesn't really have fantasies except about me. When I ask him what he thinks about when he's having sex by himself (I hate the m-word!) he says he thinks about me. Poor foolish man! I try to give him ideas about threesomes with S*ndra B*llock and K*te W*nslet, which he doesn't exactly run away from...
He also seems to feel awkward about saying erotic things to me during sex, and although he sometimes tries, it doesn't always work. Having said that, he said some stuff a few days ago that was so good it had me biting the pillow! I guess the thing about erotic words is that it's hard to find stuff that's universal. People respond in a very individual way. Some women might get instantly horny if their partner said, "Let's play hide-the-salami," whereas others might laugh so loud the poor guy would have to take a vow of silence.
But maybe if you keep talking to him the way you want him to talk to you, he'll get familiar with the vocabulary and the syntax and start feeling more comfortable saying similar things to you. Don't give up!
Tamar
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