Posted by PM80 on June 10, 2005, at 12:56:51
In reply to Re: Can't get past this HATRED » Larry Hoover, posted by Susan47 on June 8, 2005, at 11:12:04
> you're making her life hell
> You're emotionally abusing both of them.
WHAT??? These statements are way overboard and absolutely false, in my opinion.Your post has many valid points, but these almost seem flat-out malicious toward margie. Did you really mean to say this to your own in-laws?
Margie is asking for help to a problem that she honestly from the get-go tried to do her best in the way she knew how. Consider this for a moment: Is it possible that Margie acted how she would have wanted someone to act towards her, but unfortunately the wife-to-be is a very different person who did not understand it the way it was given? Then things got worse from there, with miscommunication then hurt and anger on BOTH ends?
The last lines of your post just came off as nasty to me. Are you worried that you might have some small responsibility yourself for your own poor relationship with your in-laws? That possibly on some level you've misunderstood their intentions/actions a little? Does it scare you to even consider it?
I really do not feel that margie deserves your anger. It is in no way supportive, and this place is about support.
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