Posted by Susan47 on June 8, 2005, at 11:12:04
In reply to Re: Can't get past this HATRED » margie24, posted by Larry Hoover on June 8, 2005, at 8:42:50
Sweetie, you're not my ex-sister-in-law, are you?
Allow me to write something indirectly, to her, to this Leslie, this sister of my ex-husband.Did it occur to you that your sister-in-law to-be has a life of her own, she has a right to it, and she has a right to be with your brother if they both choose it? And they do. And you're interfering. Because he's the youngest, the baby of the family, you've always felt extra-close to him, you had a special empathy. And he's the only boy, is that right? I could have got that wrong. IN any case, he's opposite sex and he's younger and you're jealous as hell, you can't see that because it would be exposing a part of you you can't admit to having, you're a "nice" girl.
You're making your brother's wife-to-be, you're making her life hell, did you know that? Did you know that her reaction to you and your family is a direct result of the jealousy you're unwilling to see, most likely, all of you, mom included?
Did you know that you definitely can break up the marriage of a loving couple,
did you know that you could damage their relationship permanently with your emotional blackmail of your brother?
Get therapy.
It's you who are no good to anyone right now. It's you who has the power to be your brother's great friend and supporter, to be strong and good and wise, to love his new partner, to accept her so that she can finally relax; do you have any idea, my dear, how it feels to be outnumbered by vicious gossiping people who are ready to hate you just because of your ability to usurp what they perceive as being theirs, which never was? You have no right to ball-bust your brother like this.
You're emotionally abusing both of them.
Get over it.
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