Posted by margie24 on June 8, 2005, at 14:54:26
In reply to Re: Can't get past this HATRED » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on June 8, 2005, at 11:33:36
Thanks so much Larry. Your post truly brought me closer to sanity.
The bottom line is it is not my business and I can love him through this. Thanks for reminding me. You're right, I look way past the solution.
I actually have the Serenity Prayer written on a hankerchief for the wedding. My sponsor always tells me "who knows their relationship may last longer than any of yours."Susan, thanks as well. I asked for it and I got it. I have to say my blood boiled when I read your reply, but in the end I see your point. They both have every right to choose for themselves. I keep forgetting.
I really think this is different in that we never were especially close to my brother. We usually saw him once a month at the most and I rarely spoke to him on the phone. But when we did see him, it was always wonderful. So, I don't think it's jealousy (could be, but don't think so). I don't really feel like I have lost something I once had with him.
I called off a wedding 3 months before hand in some part because of a sister-in-law. She and his mom called him almost everyday. It sucked for me.
I've always acknowledged, especially to Barf, how difficult it must be to come into a family of girls. Girls can be like vultures.
Anyway, I won't try to defend myself. I know this is wrong. It feels wrong. That's why I'm here.
But, Susan, every situation is different. I think my sisters and I made some mistakes, but they weren't out of trying to keep our brother all for ourselves.Thanks again.
I really appreciate you both taking the time to advise me. I really do feel more at peace.Margie
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