Posted by Susan47 on May 1, 2005, at 8:23:14
In reply to Re: Horrible Day, Please let me whine » Susan47, posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 21:44:57
His nature is and I think it always has been, to lay blame and to see the worst in everyone. It's amazing to me, how people can hide their true selves so effectively when they're trying to make a good impression. I think it's why long courtships are important; I had to learn that lesson the experiental way. Stupid, but I jump into relationships when I'm lonely.
So that attitude of laying blame leads to sarcasm and ugly talk. And as soon as this person opens his mouth, his tone of voice kind of makes you want to tune him out. And you do, and she does. But, yes, she is getting something from her father that's positive, she feels grateful that she has a father. He plays games with them some days, he sets limits, usually they're unreasonable, he expects them to be fully adult. He tells them to do things they're not able to do then gives no help.
Is that positive?
I really don't like him. But sometimes, he is kind. And lovable. And that confuses me. I think it confuses everyone.
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