Posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 21:44:57
In reply to Re: Horrible Day, Please let me whine » alesta, posted by Susan47 on April 30, 2005, at 21:00:20
> Dear Amy, Thank you. Um, what did I want to say.. yes, oh yes he hasn't been sexual with her but when he gets really angry with her, as he has now, twice that I know of in ten years, he hits her so hard that she falls down. I can't believe I married someone, see now I can't believe I was even dating someone or sleeping with or having sex with, a guy who has so much hatred in him.
> It's shocking.
> It is.
> And unbearable,
> and the pain I feel
> for my daughter, my helpless little worrier,
> the round-cheeked, soft-skinned little girl
> I gave birth to; my daughter
> hurt,
> hurt by those
> she loves the most.awww, susan, it will be ok.
>
> This will not be a lifetime
> pattern being set for her.
> No, she is aware of the wrong being done.
> Because I tell her, and her father tells her,
> and he says he's sorry,
> although he always has an excuse,
> every sorry is followed by a "but",
> or "I wouldn't have lost it if...."
>
> I hate man-children.but at least she has one fully loving parent figure in her life..i do believe she will break the cycle..something tells me she will..probably because she has such a great mom who loves and cares for her deeply.
i do not know *all* the details to know what to say about her relationship with he father. i had no relationship with my father, and honestly would rather have had a dad that struck out once in a blue moon than one who was not interested and not there at all..(it's probably not politically correct for me to say that. i'm kind of writing this paragraph from a child's perspective..don't take this as advice..i'm rambling.) but i'm just trying to see this from your daughter's eyes. she is getting something positive from him, or she wouldn't want to stay..is he as bad to her as he was to you, or is he normally good to her? (i feel like i'm writing stuff that i shouldn't be for some reason..i'm just trying to put all this in perspective, maybe going about it strangely..)
amy:)
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