Posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 17:06:43
In reply to Re: Horrible Day, Please let me whine » alesta, posted by Susan47 on April 30, 2005, at 15:50:48
ooh my god, i'm gonna cry...i just wrote you this detailed email that i put my heart and soul into and it all just deleted..i have no idea how this happens!!!!! the one time i try and skip wordpad, too..dang it..
i guess i'll try and sorta 'sum up' the advice part.:) but let me first say that is nice to have someone understand what it's like dealing with a misogynist..it's funny that we just realized that about each other..most ppl have no idea what i'm talking about when i refer to misogyny, and i don't think psychiatrists/counselors are real familiar with it..i mean how often do you hear about it..bloody never! i didn't even know what it was til i accidentally came across a book on it a couple years ago..and i'd heard of and learned about most of the disorders out there...
> And I made sure she'll be safe from now on.
> But it wasn't easy, Alesta, because she knows
> she might lose him if the truth were known
> and she gets incredibly angry with me when I
> try to protect her, so I walk on eggshells,
> and I take the risk of her anger, so I know
> that the right thing was done.> Man, I can't believe it all came to this.
> I'm just in shock.
> This knowledge is all new to me.
sweetheart..it hasn't 'all come to this', sue. this is not a global catastrophe. this is just a temporary setback and trial in your life. just breathe girl. in with the good air, out with the bad. i know it must be really difficult having a child with a misogynist..but i know she's gonna be fine. and i know you love her dearly.(and just an additional note..it's my hunch that misogynists kind of 'target' their wives with their anger and mistreatment much moreso than they do their kids..just a potentially comforting thought.)
i am really not sure what advice to give you..i can try, but really have no idea what to say. you already notified social services and such. it sounds like your daughter would be very traumatized if she lost her father. perhaps much more traumatized than whatever the other thing was..i feel that sometimes ppl instinctually know what they can handle and what is best for them..depending on her age, i would really consider letting her have a say in how this is dealt with.
you're a good mom, sue. if your daughter needs help, she knows where to find it. i don't think this is the end of the world, no matter what it is, even if seems really horrible to you. you all will get past this, sweetie.
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amy:)
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