Posted by alesta on April 30, 2005, at 13:03:38
In reply to Horrible Day, Please let me whine, posted by Susan47 on April 28, 2005, at 14:03:49
> I really thought this many times in the past, but my second husband even my first, neither one of them likes or trusts women.
> My father is a secret misogynist. I never thought I'd marry someone like dear old Dad, but I did .. twice.
> I feel like shite. Absolute shite. And I understand the springtime depression, wish I didn't my meds are simply not enough. I've lost something, in the last few days, something that was important to me and valuable. It's not a physical item, it's intangible and I don't know how to bring it back.hi susan,
i kind of feel like an intruder coming on this board..i already feel like i drove ppl off the social board with all my posts this week.:( anyway.
i really wanted to respond to this cause my ex was a misogynist. and it was awful..everyone thinks all our problems were due to his crack use, but there was the misogynist problem on top of that. so it was really horrible.
dating a misogynist sucks. btw, he was also a momma's boy. which is the worst. worse than dealing with any drug addict. he was unable to be emotionally intimate with me. i felt like an object to him. and i will *never* date a man again who loves him mom like a girlfriend..is emotionally intimate with her and not me. unreal. it was emotionally tortuous to deal with..felt like i was being cheated on in the worst way (a deep emotional way). anyone whose had to deal with emotional incest invading their relationships will know what i'm talking about. before this relationship i didn't even understand the concept of a momma's boy. i sure do now.
i think his mother's treating him like a husband instead of a son from an early age is what made him a misogyist personally..i think he has deep-seated, repressed again toward her and, hence, women in general (but there can be several other scenarios that create a misogynist, always relating back to the parent/s) but he is sickeningly sweet to her and doesn't have any conscious anger..he directed it toward and other women previous to me..guess i should've known something was wrong when i saw all those holes in the walls...
> I feel like shite. Absolute shite.
sorry to hear that. btw, i feel like sh*t, too.
maybe it'll help you feel better knowing that i understand, sue.
amy
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