Posted by littleone on November 9, 2004, at 20:31:05
In reply to My parents, posted by Dinah on November 8, 2004, at 22:10:47
Hi Dinah. I'm so sorry you have to endure this sort of treatment. I know that you can find it difficult to hold your boundaries, but I think you're doing a wonderful job there. It may feel like impossibly hard work to maintain them, but that is always better than being crushed by them tumbling down on top of you.
Also, you probably know this already, but I just thought I'd reiterate that none of these things your parents are saying are true. They are projecting/blaming/etc which all comes back to it being their own personal issues. It's not truly reflective of you (or even your relationship with them). You are a loving, giving, kind, generous, thoughtful person. Please don't believe them when they say otherwise.
Also, I think that numb can be good. It enables you to do what has to be done.
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