Posted by SLS on November 9, 2004, at 10:16:24
In reply to My parents, posted by Dinah on November 8, 2004, at 22:10:47
Hi Dinah.
> Another call from my parents. My father had fallen and couldn't get up. He had fallen so that my mother couldn't get out of bed and let emergency personnel in. They weren't going to call emergency personnel.
I can hardly believe the story you've told here. You know that I like to find ways to fix things, but this is a hell of a thing to try to fix. I wouldn't know where to begin.
Perhaps it is time for you to be the parent if you haven't assumed that role already.
I find that my relationship with my parents and the roles played in the family have reversed. I have had to become the parent. At some point, this became an active decision. That this has happened allows me to tolerate their dysfunctional behaviors more easily. I guess you might do well to consider being called a MF as part of a temper tantrum that is better ignored. Of course, this takes an extraordinary amount of self-control and patience.
I doubt what I wrote will help, as I'm sure you've considered these things already.
Sorry...
:-(
(((((Dinah)))))
- Scott
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