Posted by 64bowtie on November 12, 2004, at 21:21:24
In reply to My parents, posted by Dinah on November 8, 2004, at 22:10:47
Dear (((((Dinah))))),
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> I feel kind of numb about it.<<< I hear you so clearly.... How else can I help from this point 1500 miles away?
One notion I have is that you are the person you are wanting to be, albeit emerging...
I know you are tired.... It will get better.... They can't live forever to intimidate and destroy....
A good friend of mine I've known from the 70's, dealt with his despotic Dad: his Dad would batter, shout, coerce, and threaten mercilessly. My friend would daily have the assignment to ride "shotgun" when his Dad would go to town (Iowa Farm Family). Seems his Dad would loose concentration and start drifting off the road such that my friend would have to yell directions to his Dad to keep from running into the ever-present ditch. This one particularly bad day, my friend got fed up. About 10 miles outta town, sure enough his Dad lost concentration, Jack remained silent, and they ended up in the ditch with the Buick on its side. His Dad never relied on him again. Problem solved, sorta.....
My friend had 3 brothers and a couple of sisters. The oldest brother suffered the most, attempting suicide several times and never got married. He was a good worker on the farm, so cynically, his Dad had raised an unhappy "drone" for his namesake.
You're doing real good. This stuff's not supposed to feel good. So, it doesn't.... Like I said, I wish I could provide some sort of distraction for you to get an emotional vacation. Please re-focus your intention(s) away from saving the family and establish yourself as taking those baby-steps toward living out that life that only you know how to do (and be).
Forever your flag-waver....
Rod
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