Posted by sunny10 on November 8, 2004, at 11:38:37
In reply to Re: Didn't I ask a question?, posted by jlynne on November 5, 2004, at 14:46:39
Thanks for the info (and your best wishes, of course!)
This weekend it wasn't coke, but an ENTIRE bottle of rum on Friday night. We had a long conversation last week- so I know what he is going through right now, but I can't DEAL with him when he self-medicates this way!
At first, he was a happy drunk, so I was trying to utilize the three steps of communication ON him- without explaining what I was doing. It had absolutely ZERO effect on him, but when I started getting upset (inner child upset) with the manner in which he was speaking to me, I managed to get mad (and just a little afraid) instead of flying into a panic and running out of the house. I did sleep in a different bedroom, but we were then able to discuss it the next morning. And, yes, he apologized and didn't get drunk Saturday and Sunday.
So, I guess it WAS helpful when just I practiced it. For my own peace of mind; it kept me more focused on the conversation and less focused on my REACTIONS to it... If I could just get HIM to practice the communication methods (with everyone, not just me)then he wouldn't GET so freaked out and self-medicate!
Thanks again,
Sunny10
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