Posted by 64bowtie on November 5, 2004, at 7:37:27
In reply to Re: Where did I go wrong......, posted by sunny10 on November 4, 2004, at 13:57:41
Hi, Sunny10,
> ok, boys, stop arguing.....
<<< I have been steadfast that feelings must be (exist), and feelings must be balanced, and feelings is all we mostly do, and "pure" logic is always "purely" abstract, and logic must be balanced and in the mix, and add intention and motives and being into the mix also in balance with the rest of the flavors in the soup (that is us/me).
> Yes, Rod, it has been proven, in Freud's mind at least,that there are stages of development which must be passed to get to the next level.
<<< ...or, John Bradshaw, "Eight Stages of Man" PBS series c1984
> I am still a child, emotionally speaking.
<<< Thank you! Thank you! Thank you so much!!! The tone I hear in your comment is that you got my message(s) without feeling I was judging or belittling. I am hereby and herein, ever-grateful!!! I hoped I hadn't been coming accross as judgemental. Seems that's what you heard.
> Unfortunately, just BECAUSE you know about the stages does not mean being able to live your life differently- thus being more "emotionally evolved" as Rod wishes we could be.
<<< Sage...! Thanks... again...
> It would be wonderful if knowledge actually did set us free.<<< How about HARD WORK supported by knowledge?
> I am in a relationship, and I struggle everyday to maintain it. It seems to be going okay, but only because he is as emotionally damaged as I am- and he knows it, too. We both have to struggle to maintain our relationship- isn't that sad? A perfect relationship changes every day along with the two people as they grow. Ours is maintained WITH GREAT EFFORT, because we DON'T grow every day!
<<< I see a different future for you. I hope I help, a little at least...
Rod
PS: "Birds of a feather flock together" works both ways, negatively impacting us, or perhaps, positively impacting us. Please indulge me as I repeat that as adults we have a well developed keen sense of beauty, that wasn't so functional in our childhood do to genetics that don't unfold till our teens. Much of what goes on in our childhood is induction. Grown-ups induce their crap onto us, and adults show us beauty. We take the crap as bad stuff and take the beauty as good stuff, if we're lucky. Sometimes folks get it backwards according to the grow-ups they depend on. Seek beauty, and seek people who themselves seek beauty. Them birds are good to flock with!
Rod
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