Posted by sunny10 on November 4, 2004, at 13:57:41
In reply to Re: Where did I go wrong......, posted by ron1953 on November 4, 2004, at 12:04:45
ok, boys, stop arguing.....
yes, you are both right (the men are BOTH right- and they're talking about feelings- step back;-)Just kidding- I am living proof of what you BOTH are suggesting.
Yes, Rod, it has been proven, in Freud's mind at least,that there are stages of development which must be passed to get to the next level.
I am still a child, emotionally speaking.
And, yes, Ron, I do have the "scars" to "prove" why I have not passed to the next level. They may not show, but they are there.
Unfortunately, just BECAUSE you know about the stages does not mean being able to live your life differently- thus being more "emotionally evolved" as Rod wishes we could be.
It would be wonderful if knowledge actually did set us free.
I am in a relationship, and I struggle everyday to maintain it. It seems to be going okay, but only because he is as emotionally damaged as I am- and he knows it, too. We both have to struggle to maintain our relationship- isn't that sad? A perfect relationship changes every day along with the two people as they grow. Ours is maintained WITH GREAT EFFORT, because we DON'T grow every day!
Pretty sick, hunh? The love of the emotionally challenged???
-sunny10
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