Posted by sunny10 on November 5, 2004, at 14:16:57
In reply to Re: Didn't I ask a question? » sunny10, posted by jlynne on November 5, 2004, at 13:43:08
Wow- just finished reading the article.... sounds like it perfectly "mirrors" my situation.
You and Ron met here, so you kind of got past the ackward part and that is this;
I KNOW I need work on my interpersonal relationships becuase of the way I was raised.
My SO, on the other hand, is still in denial that he treats women with a "stay back" emotional attitude because of his past.How do I launch this as an idea to "help both of us" ? I do not want him thinking that he is "doing it for me", giving him the role of caretaker rather than partner. I want the whole thing- working on it together as a team so that BOTH of us grow. (The only part of the article that I didn't like was the example of the man who was "reacting with empathy"- bull**t. It takes two to be in a relationship, be it a healthy on or an unhealthy one.)
Any suggestions? If I can talk him into reading it, too , I think I'll buy the book...
-sunny10
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