Posted by dazedandconfused on October 15, 2004, at 16:46:11
In reply to Re: Affairs - Please help; responses needed, posted by AdaGrace on October 14, 2004, at 21:46:55
Hi Ada,
I have been following your posts intently because I so relate. I think we can help each other through this.I had thought about a background check, but didn't follow through. I did look up his hometown newspaper.
As I wrote to partlycloudy above, I am in love with my husband. He is wonderful and supportive. But I have suffered from major depression my entire life and this guy made me feel better than I ever had (better than all the drugs and therapy I've tried combined). If only they could bottle that feeling of ecstacy.
But I knew it was false all along. He didn't know the real me,,,he knew the facade that I put on for him. Confident, successful career woman. He called me gorgeous and brilliant...the whole time I knew he was lying to get what he wanted, but I somehow got hooked in.
What sounds different from your situation is that I have ended it several times but I always end up contacting him again. I tried to break it off just a few months after it started. But I just end up calling / emailing him again. I got really angry with him last summer...he was supposed to call but didn't and blew me off. So I didn't contact him for a year. But I just impulsively called him one day this summer. And it was great for a couple of weeks...then nothing. He doesn't return my calls or emails. And I feel humiliated, hurt and abandoned all over again.
My advice to you is not to do what I did. Grieve for him and move on. Instead I grieve, hurt, move on, but then go back. And get hurt all over again.
I feel like a fool.
Keep posting Ada. This is a wonderful supportive place.
dazed
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