Posted by vwoolf on October 15, 2004, at 10:54:49
In reply to Re: Affairs - Please help; responses needed, posted by dazedandconfused on October 14, 2004, at 21:20:46
Hi DazedandConfused. I don't think you should minimise what you are feeling. These things can be as strong as, if not stronger than, full intimate relationships. I am perhaps not a good person to give examples because I think I am rather whacky, but I fell for someone many years ago, and still pine for him today, even though I know he was really bad for me. It was almost as if I believed he could somehow save me, really love me. Mine goes back to issues of childhood neglect, and those terrible feelings of desperate loneliness and need. And that is why these feelings take me to such a small vulnerable place. And why it seems so silly to put it down on paper. Could it be the same for you?
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