Posted by lucielu2 on August 18, 2011, at 15:38:12
In reply to Re: The unraveling of a long term relationship » lucielu2, posted by annierose on August 17, 2011, at 21:19:35
Annierose,
The reason I brought up separation issues was two things you wrote previously really struck a chord with me, and I was wondering how much they might be on your mind?
>You are also slowly separating from your therapist - cutting back on weekly sessions - so I do think there is something there in that angst. Maybe too - and this is just a random thought - now that you added that second weekly session to help you through this period (and good for you btw) - you are feeling differently about how it feels to go twice a week. Does it feel less intimate than you remembered? Do you remember him as acting differently when you came more often? What I'm getting at, maybe it feels to you, that he has begun separating from you - or that is your underlying worry. Again - pure projection on my part.
>... the reason why I would say that about being worried that your t was treating you and the relationship differently and/or separating from you ... is that would be my worry. It was a natural place for me to go.
It struck me that you had written these lines before the recent rupture occurred. So there must have been somethng on your mind then about the relationship feeling insecure somehow. So I was just trying to understand what feelings you were trying to express and whether separation was part of the picture for you.
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