Posted by annierose on August 17, 2011, at 21:28:37
In reply to Re: The unraveling of a long term relationship » annierose, posted by Dinah on August 17, 2011, at 9:46:00
This is exactly it Dinah!! This is both sides of what is going on and this is what I want right now. I know she did not intentionally hurt me. I GET THAT. But I was hurt. So say, "I'm sorry you were left feeling hurt." I'm not blaming her. I understand. But I want her to understand I was hurt and it was okay for me to tell her, "I am hurt".
Everytime I tell her I am hurt by something that happened between us, it becomes such a struggle. Why can't she ever soothe my hurt self?
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU ... for putting this into the right frame, the right words for me to digest.
Maybe I won't cancel tomorrow. Maybe I will ... hmmm ... I'll re-read your post and it might give me the courage to try and work on this some more.
Therapy is such a b*tch!
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