Posted by lucielu2 on August 16, 2011, at 16:58:03
In reply to Transference and why some alliances go bad?, posted by floatingbridge on August 15, 2011, at 14:31:03
FB, I wish I knew the answer to your question. Long term relationships, whether between T and client or peers, can go terribly wrong. Literature is full of these because they are so tragic. It is all the worse with a T, because the relationship is not equal and the stakes are so very high.
As for expressing anger, I have shouted at my T, even cursed at him on a few occasions. And he took it. But that was in the early days, when I was still a "wild child." But as my therapy progressed, I learned to fight with him more maturely, i.e. to have open and honest disagreements with him. And even so, sometimes we simply have to agree to disagree. I think this was one of the more valuable things I've gotten out of therapy. I do think that my getting very angry with him and working it out with him would be something he would take a lot of pride in, and I should too.
I don't know what it would take to completely poison this relationship. But we are both humans, so the possibility always exists.
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