Posted by emmanuel98 on December 22, 2009, at 21:44:06
In reply to Re: Sharing my story (Very Long Post) » emilyp, posted by Verloren on December 22, 2009, at 15:20:11
When I started therapy, I thought of my T all the time as well. ALL the time. I even dreamed of him at night. It's painful, but maybe that's where your head needs to be right now, thinking about therapy, working on yourself. If you have a good T and she is sympathetic to powerful transference and has good boundaries, then it WILL subside but it takes time. Longer than I would have thought. Sometimes it seemed too much and I would call this friend of mine and cry about my T. Do you have a friend you can talk to about how powwerful this is for you? You can certainly always use this list.
I don't know about you, but for me, I experienced almost no simple kindness and care as a child and grew up thinking I didn't need it. So when I experienced that in therapy -- and that's all it is that they do, provide simple kindness and care, what T's call unconditional positive regard. There's no magic to it -- it unleashed this flood of emotion.
But I don't think two T's is the answer. That just makes everything more intense, more confusion, more transference issues.
> I do agree that I spend a great deal of time thinking about my therapy and my T and it's not always in the best self-improving ways. I'm off work right now so I have a lot of time on my hands til I go back, so I spend it thinking about my T and what to talk about when I see her next, and what we already talked about, so on and so on.
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> I feel like I need to start transitioning back to a place where I can go to work and take care of myself and my home but I'm stuck right now.
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> You said "...as one deals with transference, longer term those feelings should subside." I worry how long is long-term? What can I do to stop thinking about my therapy and my T ALL the time?
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