Posted by emilyp on December 21, 2009, at 18:34:10
In reply to Sharing my story (Very Long Post), posted by Verloren on December 21, 2009, at 9:08:43
While I don't know your full life story and the issues you are dealing with, I strong believe that seeing two therapists is not a good idea. I think it will make you very confused. For example, what if you get conflicting guidance about a particular issue? Will you be able to determine which is the best approach and move down that path? Or will the energy involved in deciding a path prevent you from taking action. I also think you could get confused in trying to remember who you have told what. I also think (and I say this with some experience, as I once had a therapist and a psychiatrist) that with multiple doctors, you become more dependent on these people instead of spending time and energy developing outside relationships which are so critical if you are ever to feel better. Therapy can be a big help. But it can never replace the relationships with others. Not only will you be spending more time in therapy, but from what happened with both your current therapist and Ada, you will be spending all your other time thinking about therapy and the therapists. While that might be acceptable early on in therapy as one deals with transference, longer term those feelings should subside. I fear that if you have two therapists, you will not be able to manage those feelings.
I am sure that this will not be the popular answer on this board. I am sure other posters will see it as O.K. But I would strongly suggest working with one or the other and not making your situation more complicated. I would suggest you stick with your current therapist, be honest with her about your feelings. If after several months things are not any better, you could then consider seeing Ada. As she said, her door is always open.
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