Posted by Verloren on December 22, 2009, at 21:44:55
In reply to Re: Sharing my story (Very Long Post) » Verloren, posted by workinprogress on December 22, 2009, at 0:53:57
Hi WIP!
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>What I would say though, is that given how intensely painful transference is, we look for any way to alleviate it. Maybe Ada gave you some alleviation, some assurance that you weren't bad for feeling the way you do. I know I was looking everywhere for that, even when I got up the guts to talk to my T and she told me so- I needed someone outside the room to tell me that what was going on inside was ok. Maybe that's part of what's up with Ada?
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My goodness, I read that and thought "Exactly!" I was soooooo afraid my T would look at me with disgust if I admitted my feelings to her. Even if she didn't show it on her face, I would've still felt like she was thinking it inside. When Ada told me it wouldn't be that way and that my T would likely not respond negatively, I DID feel relief. And it was so much easier to talk to Ada about it since I didn't have the feelings for her, I had nothing to lose. With my T, I risk losing everything we've done so far.How did things work out after you told your T about your feelings. Did they lessen?
Thanks for your support. I'm glad to have found people who understand even if it seems like we're all struggling through this process.
-Verloren
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