Posted by sassyfrancesca on March 10, 2009, at 9:05:41
In reply to Re: I Feel So Weird » lucie lu, posted by SLS on March 10, 2009, at 8:31:42
for the momentary hijack here.
Scott, I can tell you what happens when a t discloses his/her struggle with feelings/love, etc......
It is damaging. I've done a "ton" of research, and what I read is that it is rarely a good idea for a t to self=disclose; they need to do their work invisibly and quietly, and get supervision, counseling if necessary.
My t has done 4 years of this stuff; playing, teasing, flirting......of course I enjoy that (because I love it), but it is a mind-game....I feel...come here, go away....etc.
Very painful, because if you know that stuff, where can it go? Nowhere...unless you wait 2 years and perhaps decide to have a personal relationship.
Sassy
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