Posted by lucie lu on March 10, 2009, at 8:16:55
In reply to Re: I Feel So Weird » backseatdriver, posted by SLS on March 10, 2009, at 7:45:01
Especially in long-term psychodynamic therapy, there is often a "therapeutic honeymoon" phase. This is well-documented in the literature, and common knowledge among Ts although I would guess that many are loath to discuss it with clients. This phase doesn't need to occur in the course of therapy but often does, typically in the earlier stages of therapy (for me it was in the second year, but then I am slow ;) By all accounts, Ts feel it too. The honeymoon stage is marked by a sense of mutual attraction and appreciation, an (often temporary or initial) improvement in the client's sense of well-being and perhaps functioning. It is usually viewed as a positive development which helps to establish and foster positive feelings, a growing attachment bond, and a secure therapy relationship. This is particularly helpful for therapies that will have to withstand the tests of time and rocky weather.Psychodynamic or analytic Ts may encourage this interactive stage because of its perceived long-term benefits to the therapy. I can imagine that this could be a point where unstable or unscrupulous Ts might take advantage of vulnerable clients. But ethical Ts, which I think includes most, will use this period skillfully and compassionately for the client's benefit. If they privately feel some reciprocity or gratification, they will not burden the client with it. Of course they are human and even the most secure T will probably enjoy a break of sunny, balmy weather, especially since they know there are stormy seas ahead. A good T can accept and hold the honeymoon feelings in the room because they know it is a stage and is a temporary development, and hopefully have all their own issues under control.
I may be all wet, Scott, but what you describe actually fits what might be experienced during this period of therapy. Of course it may not be, you are the best judge. But you might want to openly discuss it with your T. She can then help you sort out any feelings or thoughts that might be getting in the way of your therapy. It seems to me that, at least for some courses of therapy, supressing feelings or "making them go away" might be counterproductive.
Just my 2 cents.
Lucie
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