Posted by antigua3 on March 10, 2009, at 8:14:03
In reply to I Feel So Weird, posted by backseatdriver on March 9, 2009, at 22:23:38
I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Something caught my attention. Are you viewing his holding your gaze as seductive? And, as others have said, have you talked about this?
My pdoc has worked hard to hold my gaze, and for me, it's in no way seductive. It's a therapeutic technqiue to foster the trust that I need. It shows he's paying attention mostly, and while it makes me hugely uncomfortable at times, I understand what he's doing.
But your situation may be much different. There may be other signs that indicate this is seductive. But I'd try to run this by him and see what he says.
Has holding your gaze been a seductive thing in your past? Is that one way you've interpreted interest? If so, again, try to talk about it. Our past experiences, as I'm sure you well know, color our perceptions now, and it's really hard, for me anyway, to distinguish between what is "real" and what is going on therapeutically.
Pls don't think I'm disagreeing w/you. It's just something that's important to you, especially if you're getting that "it's my fault" feeling.
antigua
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