Posted by lucie lu on December 26, 2008, at 3:50:11
In reply to Grief, posted by DAisym on December 23, 2008, at 2:46:36
My older daughter is leaving home in a few months. She moved back in with us the last couple of years of college. Since it is nearby, we never had to really say good-bye. Well not a permanent good-bye, but the leaving the nest to fly off sort of good-bye. It is very exciting to see how her life has turned out and heart-warming to see the person she has become, her good heart, inner strength, and excitement for the newness of adulthood.
But for us with our histories, grief at having a child leave home can be especially poignant. If we are lucky, we *can* get in RL at least some of what we wanted so much in our childhood and lacked in terms of love and connections with others. And now we have to face again those nasty, echoing feelings of abandonment and loss, even though we know it's a "good" kind of loss and that life is full of these. I have not forgotten what Daisy's T said a while ago, that people are always coming in and out of our lives. The ones that mean the most to us become part of us. I think I am finally learning that. But still I grieve. I will get over it, just feels sharp right now. There have been extra tears this Christmas, both hers and ours.
Daisy and all who are grieving, maybe it will help for us to remember that good grieving is cleansing and produces new growth within us.
Lucie
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