Posted by LadyBug on December 23, 2008, at 14:52:11
In reply to Grief, posted by DAisym on December 23, 2008, at 2:46:36
DAisym
I feel your pain as mine is similar in some ways. The loss of a long time marriage. Having my girls grow up. Trying to remember the fun holidays when they were small wishing I could go back and do it again. Where did the time go? And why don't my daughters share the same beliefs as I do. Why?
The shattered dreams of what I thought life should be like at my age. Not in a million years did I imagine being so lost at this age. I have nothing but my kids, for that I'm grateful, they are the reason I live.
I've done *a lot* of grieving this year. Losing my first grandson to adoption has to be the most painful thing I've ever had to grieve in my entire lifetime.
Grieving is part of healing but what a painful experience we go through. Sometimes the tears seem as though they won't stop or the pain is so deep we think it will literally break us or our heart is going to shatter. In the moment, it is the most powerful emotion and we feel like it will stay forever and then it subsides for a time only to return again at another time.
I am grieving the retirement of my T even though we did 99% great work together and the ending went well. I will grieve this loss for a long time to come. In time, I have to believe it will be less painful.Hang in there DAsiym, to take the grieving out of life would be like taking love out of life. If we didn't grieve it would mean we never had the chance to have the positive feelings we had towards something. I find myself wishing things turned out different, but I can't change the way things really are, I have to accept what is, even though it's not what I would have chosen had I been given a choice.
LadyBug
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