Posted by Fallsfall on December 25, 2008, at 8:54:48
In reply to Grief, posted by DAisym on December 23, 2008, at 2:46:36
Can I fill in for your therapist while he is gone? I miss you!
I think when kids grow up it is like when they go to kindergarden for the first time. We miss them, and are sad that their "babyhood" is gone - but it is so exciting for them to be growing up and doing things for themselves. The hard part is to find things for US to do for OURselves. As they become more independent, we need to find ways to fill our lives with meaning. It is quite a change. Your son is fortunate that you can recognize that you DO want him to be an independent thinker.
I think that the hardest thing for me is to figure out what I want the REST of my life to be. How do I want to fill my time? Who do I want to spend time with? What do I want my life to be like? I feel like I have a void (which used to be filled with both kids and depression) that I need to decide how to fill. Right now, I don't know what I want. So I waste a lot of time.
I hope you had a Merry Christmas!!
Love,
Falls
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