Posted by Dinah on December 7, 2008, at 10:15:57
In reply to Re: Memories - definite triggers » Dinah, posted by Wittgensteinz on December 7, 2008, at 5:49:42
No, I was upset about the latest example of same old same old at work. I took Risperdal yesterday and now am feeling better.
It probably would be a difficult topic for me, no matter what. As you say, I do accept the uncertainties and I also accept (usually) that my reactions are valid to my biology and my history.
I would like to give you some hope that things can get better. I went to a sex therapist for months, and things really didn't get better because she was aiming for changing who I was enough to aim for a traditional sex life. One or two sessions with my regular therapist came at the right time and included the right ingredients, and my husband would agree that the problem is one I can consider solved. I would never have considered that possible. He didn't do anything particularly brilliant from a conventional therapy standpoint. He didn't introduce any insight into why I am what I am. He just more or less gave me permission to be who I am, and to work out an arrangement with my husband that couldn't be by any means be considered traditional, but that is acceptable to both of us. The thing that actually helped me most was the glint of appreciation in his eyes and the ring of sincerity in his voice that made me feel confident enough to talk about it openly with my husband. Go figure. Because he understood and accepted me, he was able to help me in a way that the sex expert couldn't. If it can happen with me, in a way that I don't find distasteful or upsetting, it can happen with *anyone*. If your relationship allows you to take your time, so much the better.
My son was much reassured, and I just was enormously pleased that he said anything to me.
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