Posted by B2chica on December 10, 2008, at 12:31:20
In reply to Re: Memories (triggers too, esp warning for Dinah), posted by Wittgensteinz on December 6, 2008, at 12:25:42
>>It's a pity the past can't just stay that way and that we can't just go on into the future with a fresh start.
i hadn't commented on this thread because it is sooo triggering for me, i could only read about one post at a time then i'd have to leave.
but i'm to this comment of yours now and i just feel strongly and want to share with you that through my experience of trauma, depression, anxiety and all the other horrors of abuse, i feel like the one thing i've learned is that once i can see the past for what it is, and wrap my mind around it that the future WILL be a fresh start. one without all my baggage, (at least a much smaller one).That denial and misunderstandings of flashbacks were so much more painful to me, then getting them out to a safe T. and ONLY when i was ready did i finally start, not just 'saying' what happened, but started talking about it. it is now that i'm starting to see that i CAN have a future with a mostty fresh start. no i'm not erasing what happened, but i'm accepting that my memories are true and their mine no matter how horrible they are. and when my denial washes away and i talk, i sometimes feel a burst of acceptance...i feel stronger.
you will too. i promise.
it will take time. but you will.
b2c.
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