Posted by DAisym on December 4, 2008, at 11:58:27
In reply to Re: One little sentence-trigggers - long/Daisym, posted by rskontos on December 3, 2008, at 9:27:19
Funny how our experiences color our responses. When I saw Obama, I wondered how those girls felt to have their parents away from them all the time. The "career" was much more important. My mother worked all the time and had no idea what was happening at home. I'm sure this is why I thought that.
I sometimes wonder if creating a fantasy mother helps you grow up with the ability to live in the world productively - versus seeing the reality as a child. Perhaps this mother gets us through and helped us figure out how to be mostly OK, even if our insides are screwed up. I'd say that is the difference between my sister and myself. She chose the wrong path for a long time, looking to dull her pain with drugs and sex. I simply work myself to death - keeping so busy nothing could get inside. We both eventually crashed, but I had a better base to go back to. She has to start from scratch.
Just some rambling thoughts this morning. I'm sure we all have our own forms of resilency.
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