Posted by seldomseen on August 31, 2008, at 15:38:58
In reply to Re: Racer-valadation » seldomseen, posted by lemonaide on August 31, 2008, at 14:45:05
"But shouldn't T's help us get out of that pattern instead of becoming that pattern?"
ABSOLUTELY! Good therapists help us to recognize patterns of behaviour that hold us back. Like when we continue to listen to people who would condemn us. Or when we continue to do that to ourselves. Not only that, but they can help us to understand WHY we do it. Sometimes that why isn't pretty, and sometimes it is squarely within our power to change it.
"It almost sound to me, and I may be off here, but it sounds like you are putting the victim at fault here for having an unethical relationship with their T."
I'm definately not putting the therapee at fault here at all. Although, when things do go bad it can be an opportunity to examine ourselves. We can learn from it. Definately. But I'm not, as I indicated before, assigning blame or making a value judgement at all.
As I've said, there are some crappy therapists out there, and sooner or later on this therapeutic journey a lot of us will run into them. Have I ever told you the story of the T that had me hold teabags during our sessions? Or the one that told me all about the abuse he suffered as child and how what I went through was nothing really? I stayed with him for six months before I bolted.
Therapy is a lot about guided introspection. Most of the work is ours to do.
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