Posted by susan47 on August 31, 2008, at 14:26:12
In reply to Re: General thoughts on the subject of responsibility » susan47, posted by Racer on August 30, 2008, at 17:48:02
Why can't I transfer that need for validation to someone I respect so much more?
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> If I ever answer any of that, I'll let you know.Your post makes a lot of sense. I understand what you are saying. I don't know if your issue has to do with love, but mine does, and it seems to me that when something as big and unknowable as the heart is involved in our transactions with people, when we are in a vulnerable state of being in love with someone, and that person is our therapist, and that person lets us down when we are displaying signs of illness or unhappiness (which we will if we are predisposed to that), we will be left holding the bag, not them, as it is us who are flawed, and in any human transaction, the weaker one loses.
It's just the way of the world.
Knowing that I am weak does not increase my self-love.
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