Posted by lemonaide on August 31, 2008, at 14:59:29
In reply to Re: General thoughts on the subject of responsibility » seldomseen, posted by susan47 on August 31, 2008, at 14:36:15
What really bothers me is when things do go wrong, T's have the upper hand in establishing what happened or appeared to have happened. With their degrees, and training, they are very good at twisting things around to make it seem the client was delusional, and nothing the T did was wrong. Talk about abuse of power...
My T says that if we are overly dependent on our T's or any other relationship for that matter, the one who is depended on played a part in why this happened in developing the dependence, they get something out of it.
When I called my T a couple weeks ago because of my nightmares, and I need a kind voice to tell me I was okay. Well he told me that in cases when the client calls during periods of anxiety, if not life threatening, he will wait to call them back. He doesn't want to be the 1st line of offense when a client falls apart. He wants the client to learn to self soothe or reach out to people in their real life. So in this way he is not becoming the only source of comfort and becoming overly dependent on him. Because this dependency will be flawed at some point, like if he is on vacation, etc. He wants the client to have other avenues. I think I value this boundary wall he started with me when I first feel apart.
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