Posted by seldomseen on August 31, 2008, at 14:01:02
In reply to Racer-valadation, posted by lemonaide on August 31, 2008, at 12:38:00
It IS a very good question. And again, I think my response might be a little controversial, but just bear with me.
Let's face it. If we all came from validating childhoods most likely none of us would be in the situations we are in.
I think we give a lot of credence to people we shouldn't because they say what we are most comfortable hearing. I suspect we may even seek out the bad sometimes. We are used to it "fitting" with what we think of ourselves. It may be evil, but it's a known evil.
So, here comes someone who seeks to challenge that fit and replace it with what should be there. For me, it was simply a fresh kind of hell.
I kept (keep) reverting to the old tapes that just play and play in my head. It still feels as though I'm just simply "trying it on" sometimes. But not as often as it used to.
It takes work, every single day we have to work to listen only to the people that are saying the right things. We can re-write those tapes.
Seldom.
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