Posted by sassyfrancesca on March 5, 2008, at 13:31:44
In reply to MAD MAD MAD!, posted by Daisym on March 3, 2008, at 1:01:28
Oh, sweetie: There is a way to "win." I believe in "restorative justice"---This is what you did, this is how it made me feel.
How horrific that any parent can ignore/deny incest (at least that is what I think you are referring to with your sister and you?)
It is easier to ignore and deny it, than do what a parent is supposed to do.....First rule of parenting: PROTECT your children.
I can never be quiet when there is injustice (as in your situation); what would you like to happen, if you could make it happen?
For me (abused as a child, emotionally, physically and sexually [while asleep] and "mother" had left me alone at night...and then abused as an adult in 31 years of "marriage" and then abused by a church (who voted me out of membership because I got a divorce).....the term:
RESTORATIVE JUSTICE --are the most powerful, important words on the planet. As a child I couldn't speak up. As an adult I have a voice, and I use it!
For that child....who had no voice.
I hope you will find your voice....perhaps write a letter to your mother (and father...)
Secrets destroy families.
Hugs n love, Francesca
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